A couple of nights back, a friend of mine asked me to come and spend some time with her. So I came to her place and immediately felt like something was off. After a bunch of minutes of the normal chit-chat, I asked her if everything was OK. And she said ‘Actually, I’m falling apart.’ Then she proceeds to tell me that she had seperated from her husband a couple of weeks back.
 :(. It’s not a total shock as I know she was never really happily married, still they did have some time together and last I heard they were looking to buy a house so I kind of figured they were able to work out whatever needed work.
But the saddest thing she said is that she doesn’t even miss him or feel that she lost a friend. That makes me feel sad. I think every married person contimplates divorce or thinks about the death of their spouse at some point or another. But I can never imagine NOT missing Adiel should anything ever God forbid happen.Â
So I feel sad that she has to go through this. And I feel sad that she feels like she has ‘lost herself’ through her marriage. And I feel sad that I wasn’t more aware of her situation and better able to help her. But I’m glad that, if this really wasn’t working, they are finally doing something about it.
This is my first friend that I know that is even considering divorce and I never felt so strongly that she is doing the right thing. She just hasn’t been happy as a married girl, and there is an option for when marriages just don’t work. I just feel sad also when I remember how excited she was when they were dating and engaged. But as she told me before I left — and I need to remember this when things aren’t as exciting or romantic as they were during the courtship:
“It’s better to be loved than to be in love”.
Hugs and kisses to you girl. You’re going to be happy once more.

