31 January 2007
Sad feelings
Posted by Esther under: Oysh .
A couple of nights back, a friend of mine asked me to come and spend some time with her. So I came to her place and immediately felt like something was off. After a bunch of minutes of the normal chit-chat, I asked her if everything was OK. And she said ‘Actually, I’m falling apart.’ Then she proceeds to tell me that she had seperated from her husband a couple of weeks back.
:(. It’s not a total shock as I know she was never really happily married, still they did have some time together and last I heard they were looking to buy a house so I kind of figured they were able to work out whatever needed work.
But the saddest thing she said is that she doesn’t even miss him or feel that she lost a friend. That makes me feel sad. I think every married person contimplates divorce or thinks about the death of their spouse at some point or another. But I can never imagine NOT missing Adiel should anything ever God forbid happen.
So I feel sad that she has to go through this. And I feel sad that she feels like she has ‘lost herself’ through her marriage. And I feel sad that I wasn’t more aware of her situation and better able to help her. But I’m glad that, if this really wasn’t working, they are finally doing something about it.
This is my first friend that I know that is even considering divorce and I never felt so strongly that she is doing the right thing. She just hasn’t been happy as a married girl, and there is an option for when marriages just don’t work. I just feel sad also when I remember how excited she was when they were dating and engaged. But as she told me before I left — and I need to remember this when things aren’t as exciting or romantic as they were during the courtship:
“It’s better to be loved than to be in love”.
Hugs and kisses to you girl. You’re going to be happy once more.
6 Comments so far...
rmm Says:
2 February 2007 at 7:22 am.
It is better to be happy alone than miserable with company.
Esther Says:
3 February 2007 at 7:52 pm.
That’s true. In a way, it’s a good thing that she will have a chance for real happiness.
Tam Says:
30 June 2007 at 8:24 am.
It is great that she has a good friend. When you described her she sounds exactly like me and what I have been going through since i just recently divorced. I thought the last line was amazing “It is better to be loved and than to be in love.” That is so true. God bless her in this journey. It is not easy, but we will make it.
Sheri Says:
9 December 2007 at 1:33 am.
This was at the beginning of 2007. Can we have an update on what happened since thn?
Esther Says:
9 December 2007 at 8:23 am.
She and her husband have since divorced. It was an unfortnate situation but she’s trying as best as she can to pull her life togethert and keep busy with a job and school and friends.
Thanks for askinng.
Sheri Says:
10 December 2007 at 1:11 pm.
Thanks for the update
Ruth K. should be contacting you about the DVD on Tues. or Wed.